"I don't think fairness has much to do with it. You're not angry with him and you're not saying anything unreasonable to me. Though my judgment is probably questionable." I smile at him and hope I'm offering at least a small amount of comfort.

"And you're not so bad off, you know," I can't help but add. "I went out with a man recently who wouldn't so much as touch my hand until I did it first. I understand frustration."